Can you heal selfishness


Selfishness is behavior that is primarily geared towards one's own interests. Selfishness is selfishness, selfishness. Like any addiction, selfishness tries to plug a hole that cannot be plugged with the object of addiction. True self-love is also unselfish love. Those who do not have this kind of self-love and also feel that they are not loved by others can develop selfishness. Selfishness can develop different characteristics of an addiction: If you haven't got anything out for yourself for a while, you get withdrawal symptoms. Anyone who has got something for themselves floats in a feeling of happiness for a while. But it takes an ever higher dose to be satisfied.

Selfishness does not make one content and happy. Selfishness isolates you from other people. Love and compassion, the feeling of making a difference for others, a higher purpose in life, all of these things are needed for a person to be happy. Ultimately, selfishness leads to isolation and unhappiness - and is therefore a punishment in itself. Self-love, self-love is good - selfishness makes you unhappy. More on the subject of selfishness from a spiritual point of view under the keyword egoism.

Dealing with others' selfishness

Sukadev in a short lecture 2015

John F. Kennedy: "Don't think about what your country can do for you. Think about what you can do for your country."

Maybe you feel like someone else is thinking about themselves all the time. Instead of doing something for the community, he is only doing something for himself. And he only does something insofar as he thinks that something jumps out for him. You think about it, is he perhaps selfish and how can this selfishness be driven out of him?

My tip is to be a little careful. If you accuse people of being selfish, they feel offended, attacked and defend themselves. When someone is in defense mode, it is difficult to get a good result with them.

More importantly, communicate your own needs. Tell the other I need this and that. Don't expect the other to see this. But say it. Or also say what is important for the community. Say yes - our common concern is this and that. And it would be helpful if everyone pulls together. What can you do to help? Sometimes people don't want you to be told anything. But if you ask them what you want to contribute to it, then they are happy to contribute something.

So, don't blame the other for selfishness, but think about how you can inspire them to participate in the common cause. Of course, it is not your job to precisely motivate the other person. But if you make it clear to the other that their help is necessary, they will typically be happy to help.

Selfishness and common good

Sukadev lecture on the topic 2016

A person can either find himself on the level of selfish satisfaction of needs or consider "how can I achieve the greatest possible good for others?" You can see this as dualistic, but you don't have to. Because if you want to do something for the common good, for others, you have to make sure that you can do it in the long term. So the smartest thing to do would be to think about not "what do I need?" But rather "how can I best use my skills and talents for others? How can I best help others?"

You can help others optimally if you work on yourself, are healthy, have a lot of prana, life energy, have a serenity, can inspire, simply through your being, your love, your joy. In this sense you can say you eat and live healthy, do your yoga exercises and meditations, also to help others. This is not selfishness, but for the good of others. In the same way, you can make sure that you get enough rest and have enough what you need. But not for yourself, but to help others.

In this respect, it is not against the common good to take care of oneself. Conversely, if you take care of the common good, think about what you can do good for others, and also consider "How can I use my talents for the good of others?", Then that is also something wonderful for yourself. One of the most wonderful experiences is when you have the experience that you can do something good for others and you notice that you have made someone happy, that you have touched someone in their hearts. It is also nice when you can see that your special abilities can do a lot of good.

My tip would actually be to put the common good before self-interest. But make sure that you take care of yourself enough to help others in the long term. Common good comes before self-interest, that is my firm conviction. And people are happiest when they consider ways to live meaningful lives to help and serve others.

Now consider whether you are leading a life that is designed to do good to others. As you make decisions, do you consider “how can I best help and serve others?”? When dealing with others, do you think "how can I act in a way that is best for them or that we can achieve the greatest together?" or do you always think first "How do I get the most for myself?", "How can I make sure that I get the most out of it?", "Am I treated correctly?", "Am I properly recognized?", " Are people kind enough to me? "? It's all more self-centered. More importantly, consider how you can help and serve others.

In order to be able to help and serve others, it may also be necessary that you care about your reputation, that you also ensure that you ultimately have an influence that helps others to work together with you. But the first question is always how you can best use your skills and talents for others. "What is the common concern of many people? What do many people want to achieve good together and how can I integrate well there? How can I optimally integrate myself there?"

If you do that, then you will be the happiest. Those who mainly take care of themselves are always offensive to others. And if you offend others, under no circumstances will you be happy. Man cannot be happy alone, man can only be happy when he is connected to others somewhere, when he feels a unity with others. So the common good is more important than selfishness, and selfishness can create many problems.

Think about it yourself, to what extent do you deal realistically with it? To what extent do you think about the common good and where are you selfishly attached? (Materialism)

Selfishness in relation to other personality traits

Selfishness belongs to the group of personality traits, downsides, vices and virtues. To better understand this character trait, let's relate it to others:

Synonyms selfishness - similar characteristics

Synonyms selfishness are for example Egoism, self-centeredness, self-centeredness, narcissism, self-obsession, self-love, self-love, self-love .

The synonyms can be divided into two groups, those with a positive connotation and those with a negative connotation:

Synonyms with negative connotation

Synonyms that are commonly interpreted as negative are, for example

Synonyms with positive connotation

Synonyms with a positive connation can help to see an apparently dark side positively. Synonyms with positive connotation are for example

Antonyms of selfishness - opposites

Antonyms are opposites. Antonyms, i.e. opposites, of selfishness are for example Self-criticism, self-denial, self-denial, self-hatred . You can also divide the antonyms, the opposites, into those with a positive connotation and those with a negative connotation.

Antonyms with positive connotation

Antonyms, i.e. opposites, to a vice, a shadowy side, a negative personality trait, are commonly interpreted as an opposite pole. These can be cultivated in order to overcome the vice, the dark side. So here are some opposing poles to selfishness that have a positive connotation:

Antonyms with negative connotation

The opposite of a shadowy side, a vice, is not always positive. Here are a few examples of antonyms related to selfishness, but they are also not seen as beneficial:

Properties in the alphabet before or after

Here are some traits that come before or after selfishness in the alphabet:

Property group

Selfishness can be counted under the following two groups of characteristics:

Related words

Related words to selfishness include the adjective selfish, the verb seek, and the noun selfish.

Those who have selfishness are selfish or selfish.

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